Personal Development In A Nutshell

Life is made up of many different paths. Every choice we make bring us to a path with a different end. While some path can be overlooked, some play a significant role in our life. When it comes to personal development, it’s all about path that matters, to you at least.

As much as I would like to bore you with what it comprise of, it basically covers almost anything you would possibly want to improve on. And because of the broad subjects that were covered, saying things like “I want to improve myself” would be too vague and hardly gets you anywhere.

Instead, saying things like“I want to stop procrastinating”, “I want to have a goal in life”, “I want to be in control of my emotions” or “I want to be positive and productive” sets you a specific target to achieve.

Let’s be honest. People resent changes. You do, I do, and so does many others. Changes mean work and the work is tedious. Unlike a 9-5 job which you are required to put a certain amount of effort each day, you get paid to do it. The pay is a reality, meaning it’s certain.

Personal development on the other hand put no cash in your hands, at least not directly most of the time, and the reality is not certain yet. There’s no contract that says, if you do 50 reps of sit ups each day, God will bestow you with a sexy 6 abs. And what’s worse, there is no one ordering you or checking on your progress, which basically means you can opt not to work on that abs when you don’t feel like it.

Willpower

Which leads us all to will power, and not just any willpower but WILLPOWER. Everything that is without governed requires a certain amount of willpower to take its place. The reasoning is simple, without willpower, the discipline needed to make the changes won’t be met.

So how do we get willpower? Where does it come from and how can we attain it?

The good news is, willpower doesn’t come from thin air. The amount of willpower has a lot to do with reasons and how desperate you are for changes.

Reasons to change

Changes must come with a reason. Just like the design philosophy of Apple, “if there is no problem, don’t fix it” prove to be very handy in explaining the logic behind this.

Given enough reasons, one will convert those reasons into actions, which are necessary for the changes to occur. So what kind of reasons are we looking at?

1. You are not happy with yourself

2. You are not happy with your surroundings

3. You are not happy with your reality

As said earlier, changes require reasons. But having reasons alone doesn’t necessarily means there would be changes made. This can happen if the person is not desperate for the changes to occur.

I must change

Assuming you have reasons to change, either you are not happy with yourself, your surroundings or with your reality, unless you are desperate, you are most likely to continue with whatever it is you plan to do after reading this article.

This is because you are not desperate, or should I say desperate enough. You still feel like wasting time finding other solutions to your problem, like wishing and hoping.

The bad news? Wishing and hoping gets you nowhere except for wasting time. And time is not something even money can buy.

You are who you are not because of your plans or your intentions. It’s all about your actions. And unless you start realizing this, you won’t likely make any of the necessary changes anytime soon.

This is of course assuming if you have any in the first place.