The 17 Conditions Of Lasting Love

To break down the condition of love seems to belittle the feeling of affection in a couple. After all, love is probably the only complicated feeling we come to cherish. But although the feeling is hard to understand, we can still safely assume that under a rational point of view, these are the 17 conditions that should be present in all serious relationships.

1. Trust – Trust goes a long way in a relationship. My suggestion is not to lie to your partner because, if you get caught, there will be some serious damage on the trust your partner has for you. And it’s going to affect the relationship.

2. You want, not need – You want to be nice, you don’t need to. Being desperate for your partner’s love is not fair for you and your partner. When you are desperate, it gives out the feeling that you lack confident and have what it takes to assume your role.

3. Confront your partner’s mistake, don’t assume – This is one of the biggest mistakes that ruin a relationship. Don’t assume your partner realize his mistakes, tell him. You don’t deserve to be shut for hours without explanation or an apology, and neither does him.

4. Love is conditional – Love is not supposed to be unconditional. When you give, you expect something in return. Be it love in return, being faithful or being nice to you. And it is important that you acknowledged this fact. If your partner does not play his role, you need to let him know what you want, instead of keeping it all to yourself.

5. Respect – This goes without saying. You should never resort to physical abuse or derogatory remarks to your partner, no matter what she did. And the less obvious one would be not to take out your anger on your partner because you happen to have a rough day.

6. Give space – Everyone needs some space from time to time. The stress from work can really take a toll out of the person. It is therefore not advisable to always force your partner to be there for you for the little talk you need about your girlfriend being an ass.

7. The chemistry is there – Have you ever met someone who you can talk with for hours without even trying. The conversation just flows naturally and time always seems to run by fast whenever you’re with him. I have my shortest relationship few months ago. Whenever I’m with her, God knows how many times I’ve asked myself “what am I supposed to ask her next?” And I’m sure she feels the same. We have absolutely nothing in common, which is bad. Sometimes, feeling alone is not enough. One needs to match the other in order to make a relationship last. It’s a shame, I know.

8. Acceptance of imperfection – Love your partner’s imperfection. It’s wrong to force him to change into what he’s not. But of course, if he’s willing to change, then that’s another story. But if he’s not, he’s not the problem here, it’s you.

9. Expect arguments – Drama will always be present in a relationship. It’s the responsible of both parties to keep it to the minimum.

10. I love you – I love you is more than just words. It should be conveyed by your actions. Buying a gift for your partner out of surprise, cooking dinner for him, buying flowers for her, showering her with compliments, pay attention to details (new earrings, etc), be passionate about his work… you get the point.

11. Seeing beneath the beauty – “Don’t read a book by its cover” is a good advice, but sometimes, we are too stubborn for our own good. While men will always be attracted to pretty covers, the content of the book is far more important in the long run. So, love the content of the book and not the cover instead, because pretty covers are easy to find, good books however, are hard.

12. Let your ego slide – I’m sure you know that ego kills relationships. In order to make a relationship last, both partners must let their silly ego slide and stay out of the way.

13. Assuming the role – There will always one who love more than the other. And the one who has less affection usually gets to play the dominant role and the other, the lesser role. It is important not to fight over who gets to play the lead, but finding happiness in the relationship as it is. In the end, isn’t happiness what we all seek?

14. Reciprocity – In any relationship, you should not always end up giving nor taking only. A healthy relationship is one which acknowledged the different needs and wants of another and respect it by giving.

15. Forgive and forget – I always believe in a second chance. As there is no perfection in a man, you shouldn’t expect one. If you decide to forgive, then you should forget about his past mistakes as well and start anew. What’s the point of forgiving but keeping the thorn in your heart? We all know the relationship will never be the same.

16. The feeling is mutual – In that both of you are looking for a lasting relationship.

17. Spice things up – Every now and then you should spice up your love life by going on a vacation with your partner, taking her to a nice restaurant or anything that spells unusual to your normal activities.

Wrap up

Keeping a relationship is not hard, but finding the person who truly love you for who you are, always there for you and compliments you in many way, now that is one in a million. So if you think you’ve found the one, be sure to cherish her with all you got before you end up regretting it.

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