Knowing Your Starting Point

So you want to live free?

They say life is like a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you’re high up above, sometimes you get thrust down below. Well, the good news is, down below is not as bad as it sound.

Quitting an addictive relationship or grieving over death are all something we have to face, at some point in time. And in case you are wondering, I do have experience in both.

You get your happy times, and you get your not-so-happy times. Fair enough, right?

But here’s the bad news. Most of us have the tendency to dramatize our given situation, myself included. You can tell when the sob story keeps repeating itself in your mind.

For as long as I remember, I dislike comforting words. From the way I see it, I don’t need pity from others, even though they meant well. So instead of trying to provide emotional strength, I want to share with you a technique that I often use to letting go my past. I call it, point zero.

Point zero

If you pay attention to your surrounding, what do you see? Your computer, your bed maybe, some files on the desk. That is your reality. In short, your present is your reality. Not the past, not the future.

Taking this theory further, I’m going to say that the past is nothing but an illusion. A made up story that cannot be proven except for the tiny bits of pieces of memory left of what had happened, or at least happened according to your point of view.

And while I’m at it, I’m going to neglect the fact that your past action can adversely affect your present and future because whatever has happened cannot be undone regardless.

Which brings me to point 0.

When I see life, I see a time line of events. Putting this into perspective, at any point of time, your present should be at zero time line. Zero is your starting point. You can be 20 or 40 years old for that matter. But at any point you decide to press that reset button (which is located in your mind btw), you’ll jump back to the starting point.

At this point, your past is erased. What you have in front of you is what you can use to start over with. It can be your house, your car, your loving husband, your comforting friends, some money in the bank, a degree.

And all that, in return of your youth. Some start with less, and some others more. Just remember that you’re missing the point if you start comparing.

If my past had thought me anything, it would  be, nothing ever built to last. Everything that we come to have and cherish will leave us at some point of time. And since what you have now is not guaranteed to be available tomorrow, do cherish it while it last.